Men don’t realise how easy they have it in the name department. You’re given one name and unless you get a swanky qualification or change your name by deed poll, you die with that name.
Even without taking into considerations the possibility of becoming a Dr. or an Emer. Prof., there are times in a woman’s life when she has to make name-changing decisions, the big one of course being when she gets married.
I have no such conundrum at the moment, however, the question I’m dealing with is this; am I a Miss or a Ms?
There comes a time in a non-married girl’s life when she somehow clicks over from a Miss to a Ms. There are professional considerations; something about the title ‘Miss’ is very girly and young and not really appropriate for a CEO. Women who marry but keep their maiden names often use Ms because Miss is firmly single whereas Ms is ambiguous. I know some 85-year-old ‘Miss’s’ and they are very firmly ‘Miss’. Never been married and the convention is not married = Miss.
Whenever I join a mailing list or fill out a form and it comes to title, I don’t know what to put. To be honest, at the moment I don’t care. I use both titles, sprinkled across my official paper work. For me it’s the age issue. Sometime around 30 you’re magically transformed into a Ms. Perhaps because people now longer sure of your partnership status, or calling you Miss sounds silly, I don’t know. I don’t care. But I’m interested to find out – are there any other 20-something women who are finding themselves drifting into 'Ms' territory without knowing why?
Marriage aside, when do you stop being a Miss and become a Ms?